To begin with, the arousal process in men and women is different. Men can get an erection at the sight of a woman's body, an external indicator of arousal. In women, when arousal occurs vaginal lubrication, but visually it is not visible in most cases. In general, the process of female arousal is longer and depends on various factors that can both promote and inhibit arousal.
Let's look at the reasons why a woman is not aroused:
- She needs more time to become aroused. A woman's body needs to be prepared to take a man inside her. Her vagina needs to become moist, then the sensation of the penis inside gives her pleasure. For this purpose, there is a stage of preliminary caresses, where a woman's arousal picks up the right momentum. Please note that most women need FOREPLAY to become aroused and should NOT skip it.
- This is your new partner. First sexual encounters with a new person can be awkward. Partners may feel confused and compare themselves to previous partners. Therefore, you can ask the woman about her sexual preferences, try them, clarify how much they please her.
- She is physically tired. It can be fatigue from an intense day, accumulated exhaustion or a consequence of the menstrual cycle period. If a woman feels that her well-being is valued by her partner and he does not insist on sex at all costs, it will be easier for her to relax and be frank.
- She is thinking about something. It could be problems at work or a fight with her parents that she's thinking about and can't switch to sex, communicate with your partner and ask if she is in the mood for sex. Maybe she wants to share the news bothering her or lie in your arms.
A woman's arousal is closely related to the possibility of being sincere with her partner, that is the feeling of trust and acceptance. If there are difficulties with these topics in a couple, you can consult a psychologist or sexologist.